When You Eat To Avoid Disappointing Someone
Sometimes the hardest part about eating less is dealing with friends and family, right? I’ll have some, If you do, come on, Don’t make me eat alone. If you’re not having some, there’s no point in making it. You’re more likely to say yes to a bite or two or three if you hate letting people down. You might think that accepting food is part of being a polite guest.
A fun. Or a supportive spouse, but in reality, you’re just people pleasing. And as soon as you start people pleasing with food, you’re trapped. So let me explain. When you people please, you base your choices on what will make someone else happy, it seems selfless, right? You want everyone to have a good time, but after a while you start to feel.
You’ll imagine how much easier it would be to say no if your friends and family were more supportive. But there’s a downside to this line of thinking. Your ability to change is now linked to their behavior. If they don’t change, you can’t either. So the solution isn’t standing firm, but exploring what’s behind people pleasing people pleasing often starts before anyone.
Before anyone even asks, would you like some, you tell yourself you don’t wanna disappoint, but really you’re bracing yourself for judgment. Why? Because we overestimate how much others judge us and underestimate how much they judge themselves. People pleasing will be a convenient cover until you clean up your own judgment about saying no.
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